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Friday, October 7, 2022

Currently- As I'm playing catch up

Every year on my birthday, I do a currently post... I call it a state of my soul. Nine months after my birthday isn't too late, is it?

thinking | That 'it is what it is' . My mantra these days as we're in the midst of a house reno.

drinking | Lemon water, coffee, water... in that order. I think this weekend I will have to change that a bit.

eating | all things vegetarian for the past week. It's the hindu festival- Navratri so we've had a period of meatless eating. There are so many options out there now. Also, trying experiences and cuisines with the kiddos.

reading | Obsessed with Libby, the online library app. I've been trying new authors and my book spending has gotten way less. Right now, I'm corcurrently reading How to raise kids who aren't a$$holes and With Love from London.

loving | the beautiful fall foliage

wanting | my reno to be over so then the fun of layout and furniture can slowly begin.

watching | The Resident and Bachelor in Paradise. I'm one of the last ones to watch network TV and I feel like those days are numbered.

listening | to Kelly Ripa's new book on Audible.

trying | to really rock this job after 9 years away from the marketing /corporate world. It has not been easy, friends.

wishing | see wanting above

planning |a teeny, tiny thatnksgiving dinner for our family on four with NO furniture in the house... we are trying to get creative with outdoor furniture and makeshift tablescapes which everyone knows are my jam :-).

enjoying | REALFRUIT gummies--- Canadian friends, you should try them!

day dreaming | of November, new furniture and a new look to upstairs in our house.

waiting | to see if we actually have to move out while they're doing some of the renos. My friend is going away for three weeks so she's offered us her place but it's far away from all the extra curricular that occupies every single evening.

liking |That today still feels like summer but looks like fall. LOVE fall foliage

needing | to start researching high schools for a little miss who isn't so little anymore.

wearing | a few pieces... most of my clothes is in a pod in our driveway.

starting | to enjoy my kids getting older. When they're not incredibly sassy, they're quite enjoyable.

smelling |autumn candles. I've been burning one in my little office area in the basement since there are no windows.

thanking | my neighbours who take Toby when there's no one at home or the contractors are there and I don't want him to be underfoot.

Happy Thanksgiving, Canadians!!

Sunday, October 2, 2022

Well Hello There

It's been a while-- 10 months to be exact and I've really missed my little corner of the interwebs. I sit here tonight thinking I should get some work done but instead I find myself gravitating to this little space--- my unicorn space if you will. I truly miss blogging and the connection it used to bring with all of my online friends. Social media today is so fast and disconnected. True blogging with meaningful posts and connections is where it's at.

So for the twelve people reading this blog...y'all need anything from the gas station (instagrammers will understand that one).

Here's a little snippet of a few things we did this past year.

On January, we were locked down YET again in Canada. This time we actually did end up getting COVID. Mild cases for D and I, A tested negative and flu like symptoms for C. We then proceeded to have what we hope were the last of our online parties for my birthday with the kids having an Oscar themed party for me.

February brought cold temps, skiing for the kids, Valentines Day and we spent a night at our family's home for family day.

We hightailed it out of here in March to Mexico... I booked the tix right after we got COVID #winning. It was SO awesome to travel again.

In April, we became parents of a teenager. She had a Just Dance party with 6 of her closest friends- all male!

May brought more birthdays and C's first ever Youth Orchestra concert.

June was spent soaking up as much summer sun as we could. D and the kids also flew to Universal to spend some time with my inlaws, Much fun in the sun,

July was a bit hard for our family as my brother in law who was cycling got hit by a falling tree- many injuries but by God's beautiful grace, he is improving daily. D flew to be with his brother, I had my first sales meeting since 2012 and we are all double digits in this house.

The kids and I also went to NYC for the first time since 2019. It was so good for my soul to meet up with my family once more..

In August, we visited Jamaica for trip we cancelled twice before. Another good for the soul visit with my family. We also spent a week in Napanee, Ontario with our family.

And now we're back at it once again with school, work, extra curricular and some renos that are making me go slightly insane.

Have a wonderful week, friends! I hope to visit this space again soon :-).

Friday, December 31, 2021

2021 in Review

I'm never here anymore and then boom, three posts in one week! Oh 2021, it's been a journey , that's for sure! Honestly, I thought we'd be further along the pandemic in December of this year. There is a light at the end of the tunnel but boy, has it been a long tunnel.

For starters, 2021 saw all four of us getting vaccinated, one partially and two boosted. Rapid tests are being used and we've had a couple stay at home situations due to each kid having to quarantine from a possible exposure. We had multiple bouts of school from home. We postponed travel plans once again but at least we were able to see my parents, D's brother and his family, his aunt and cousins. Hopefully 2022 will have us seeing some more family.

We are still very happy in our home... six years in. We continued with some smaller renos like chopping some trees to fix the sight line from the house, fixing in-floor heating and completing more backyard work. We also are biting the bullet in early (hopefully 2022) with changing flooring, a fireplace and some cabinetry.... It will require us moving out for a week! Hopefully, that's all. We are still very grateful for the beautiful neighbourhood we live in with our happy "hours", music get togethers, walks and treats shared. We did our very own seafood boil and a chef party for the first time this year.

C is now in the seventh grade and in a new school... She misses her old teacher but she is doing pretty well with the academics. There are some ups and downs with her peer group and we struggle to help her navigate it. She moved up to yet another level in competitive swim which involves some 5:45 am practices and taking her out of school early. The better your kid becomes at a sport, the more inconvenient they make it for the parents. She is also still loving her violin and this year was accepted into the City Youth Orchestra.... now she is forced to practice, ha!

A also switched schools and once again, this kid surprised me with her aplomb. She has found her own little tribe and according to her teachers she is so "zen" in class.... a far cry from her at home dramatic antics. She is the best little organiser, loves writing out routines, plans and schedules and will someday rule something big... j/k... maybe! She had a rough health year with some unexplained tummy pain. She tested positive for celiac so we cut gluten out of her diet (and largely the rest of ours). We also had to put her on a low FODMAP diet as she may have IBS. It seems to have settled a bit but we will be doing further testing in 2022. She started back gymnastics and dance this year and still plays the piano with immense concentration.

D is still working 3 out of 5 days from home. I don't know if that's a good or bad thing as he sometimes can't switch off. He is the most prolific binge watcher, loves playing with Toby and enjoys wiping counter tops and vacuuming-- ha!

Toby is now almost a year and a half. He is still obsessed with A's stuffies, cheese and snuggling me. He is very social and loves both humans and other dogs! I did some puppy training with him this year and with D's constant training, he was the star student in his class. He is such an incredible blessing to us all.

It's been an up and down year for me... Supervising online schooling was not my thing and it was a very worrisome year with A's health issues. I really struggled. Starting back in the corporate world in November though challenging has also been a blessing. The kids seem alright, it's fun to exercise my brain fully once more and it just seemed like the right thing for us all. I can't wait to immerse myself more in the role in 2022.

We did manage to do a couple much needed Ontario getaways this summer. We went to Blue Mountain for some family fun and then right before school started headed to Picton with some family. Both were awesome little trips and time away.

Despite all of the tribulations that 2021 brought, we are grateful for the blessings and kindnesses of so many friends and family members. You know who you are and you mean a whole lot!! I am also grateful for honesty. Parents and friends in my tribe more than ever began to share stories of their own personal struggles and it's nice to know that we aren't alone in our parenting and life issues.

I hope that 2022 brings some more normalcy to us all. I hope to see more family members and travel just a bit more. D has to see his parents!!

And to my readers and beautiful blog friends, I know I haven't been a consistent blogger AT ALL this year but I thank you for reading and commenting when I do blog. Istarted to feel that my girls' stories were to not mine to tell anymore but then C told me to start back as it's fun to read... who knows what 2022 will bring, blogging or otherwise!

Happy 2022, friends!

Tuesday, December 28, 2021

10 Questions at the end of 2021

For the last couple years, I've started to do the questions for the end of the year from Laura's podcast and prompts... it's become an end of year tradition that is a nice way to say farewell to the year

1- What was it like in the beginning?

In the beginning, it was scary. Christmas was quiet and beautiful though we missed family and friends immensely. COVID numbers skyrocketed after the holidays and the kids were home. A's teacher (and also A TBH) at the time wasn't the best at online schooling so parent involvement was pretty high. It was rough, friends and I'm owning it. There's a reason I didn't go into teaching LOL.

Despite it all though, it was a coziness and a beauty to this season. It was cold outside and we hunkered down as a family. We cooked, watched movies, did "online sleepovers" and lots of virtual happy hours :-).

2- What worked well and what didn't?

I let go of a lot of things re: screen time ... I was winding myself up about lots of things with the kids and their online schooling, their screen time and all the things involved with us all being at home. I'm now choosing the things that matter to me more than before....let's see how that's working come 2022

3- What were the most important conversations and connections?

Someone close to me mentioned that she tries to only worry about the things that she has actual control over... it's something that I'm really trying my best to adhere to going forward. Coincidentally, this person who I've been close to for many years is possibly the most important connection I've had for 2021... more on that later.

4- What was the best entertainment?

The thing that comes to mind is our Modern Family Netflix watching all year round.... It's become awesome bonding for me and the girls many weekday nights.

5- Who mattered?

Everyone! It was nice to start getting together with our nearest and dearest slowly as the summer began and we all began to get vaccinated.

6- What Changed? And Why?

I started working full time in the corporate world once more... What started off as contract job a favour to my friend and old manager became a blessing for me. I threw my hat in the ring for the Brand Manager position and after meeting/interviewing with several key individuals at the company, got the job. It's been such a change for us all, at times overwhelming, at times crazy, at times fun but I LOVE IT!

7- Where did you find happiness and fulfillment?

I am finding LOTS of happiness and fulfillment going back into Marketing Management. I work with a Canadian Candy company and it's such a fun industry to understand, take ownership of and grow in... It's awesome interacting with colleagues on a personal level as well and it's an awesome organisation... If you're Canadian and you know Bearpaws then you know where I work. The people are very kind and helpful, the organisational culture is phenomenal and it's still work from home -- so I can wear joggers and no shoes, ha! When I do have to go into the office, it's six minutes away :-). Oh and my kids think that my job is the coolest as they get to sample Candy and learn industry terms like long bite and short bite.

8- What did you actually learn?

That parenting a pre-teen girl is hard and I need to be less reactive and take things less personally :-).

9- What is actually ending?

It's a big change for us for me to go back full time into the corporate world. The reason I left in 2013 was because of the kids. Mom doing so many things had to stop. Kids have to become more self sufficient and not yell if Mom is in a meeting, ha! D had to step up (and willingly did) with all the many drop offs; grocery shopping and extra curricular.

10- What do you want more of?

I want good quality family time, kindness and laughter... less screens apart and more together :-). Road trips, little adventures and visits ... And I really, really want to see family in 2022, our parents, brothers, aunts, uncles and cousins.

What about you, friends and family? What beautiful things did you learn in 2021.