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Friday, January 22, 2021

Currently on my birthday!!!

It's my birthday, friends!! This is 42!!! Every year ON my birthday, I do a little currently- sort of like a state of the soul if you may.... Here's this year's currently...

thinking | That remote learning will do me in! My little one tests my patience in so many ways as it's a lot of self learning and not a lot of class meetings. It's hard for an eight year old and then it becomes hard for her mama!

drinking | I was more of a tea drinker until this past year when I've converted to a morning cup of coffee on most days. If I'm having breakfast which I seldom do anymore, then I'd have tea.

eating | gluten free as a family. It's going well but it certainly is a transition. A gluten free slice of cake is hopefully in my future tonight.

reading | Family for Beginners-- A Novel by Sarah Morgan... I'm really liking it--- A couple heavier ones are on my list so this touching, satisfying read is good for my soul.

loving | and accepting my strong body and that I can do a push up in my forties when I couldn't do a ladies' pushup in my twenties, even though I was probably 20 pounds lighter.

wanting | my poor Toby's ear infections to be at bay. Poor thing has had a rough week with a possible surgery and double ear infections. And... putting his ear drops in is in the Top 5 of physically difficult things I've ever had to do in my life.... eesh

watching | too much news this past year--- I've started to switch off except for the amazing inauguration--- it was so heart warming and I found myself getting teary eyed... and I'm not even American! Other than that, D and I have been watching some stand up.

listening | to many podcasts when I take Toby for his daily walks.

trying | to meditate every morning and clean my house every evening.... four people and a rambunctious dog is chaotic!

wishing | that I can see my parents and family over the summer.

planning | menus that involve using what we have in our fridge , freezer and pantry so we don't have to go to the supermarket too often during lockdown-- my longest is still 17 days between visits. I consider it a personal challenge of sorts.

enjoying | all the doggie snuggles for his favourite person--- he is getting so big.

day dreaming | of sunshine and summer! Or at least spring and no lockdown.

waiting | see the point above about lockdown in Ontario. So basically waiting for our Covid numbers to go down or at least a large part of our populace to be vaccinated.

liking |My Peloton! Some great workouts, that's for sure.

needing | to stop snacking after dinner.... I've switched from Milk to Dark and soon I'm really going to try sugar free keto chocolate-eeeep!

wearing | all the joggers and all the sweatshirts like everyone else.

starting | to add Bollywood dance from YouTube to my workout selection. A little dance is good for the soul. Any other YouTube dance workouts you recommend.

smelling | lots of cooking over lockdown.

thanking | God for all the many blessings in this challenging year behind us. Here are just a few of them that have come to mind for my past year.

1- Walking around my neighbourhood... it's been a big part of my social life for the past year.

2- F45 and Peloton- two different, difficult workouts that really challenge me.

3- Cooking even more- lots of new stuff and old favourites. Oh and my family is glad that I can finally make roti.

4- My little love, Mr. Toby

5- Getting even closer to my cousin who almost lost his life nearly a year ago.

6- My mom surviving Covid and everyone else in my family staying healthy despite the pandemic.

7- All the family shows we made time to watch

8- The stuff at home we were able to accomplish.

9- Mini adventures in Toronto.

10-New friendships I've forged in the past year.

A low key birthday for sure... takeout, some sparkling wine and lots of laughs with this crew. Oh and cake.... always cake!

Friday, January 15, 2021

2021- New Year- New Resolutions

Well, I did this new year's resolution post before January's done! I call that winning these days. Remote learning is tough, yo!

Let's look at how I did in 2020 first. Usually, I have a few smaller resolutions but last year, in a weird but foretelling fluke as I just chose one. I wanted to focus more on meditation. Using the Headspace app, I'm really proud of how I did on this one. I meditate about 3-5 times a week for 5 minutes. It was a bit more regular but now with the puppy being an early riser, some days I miss it. I enjoy the continued self-awareness, grace and overall well-being it continues to bring me. I've also renewed my Headspace yearly subscription. I enjoy their daily courses where they talk briefly about different things before settling into meditation.

So this year, my word for the year and therefore resolution is LESS. I just feel like we have too much stuff, I weighed down by all of it and we need less... both for the planet and also for our mental well being. I want to focus on consuming less. So for the most part, I'm starting with myself.

I got this idea from my friend Mel on Instagram and loved it. I'd like to commit to buying only 12 personal things for myself for 2021 (I just flipped the number around). This includes ALL articles of clothing, jewelry and shoes. It may not seem like a lot to most people but it's definitely something for me. For the N-sale alone, I probably get myself 12 things. Not included are toiletries and makeup though I'm going to try to use all of what I have before purchasing more. I'm nervous about this and really hope that I can do it.

This also extends itself to other parts of our life. Going to continue to declutter and purge all the stuff that we do have around here that we don't need. Not too many dollar-store visits going forward. Also, committing to reusing items when we can but getting rid of the stuff that we cannot. Another thing that we've started in 2020 and we want to continue, is pantry and fridge shopping. Just lots of less!!

What about you? What are your resolutions? Does buying less resonate with you? If so, let me know what you're doing....

Have a wonderful weekend.

Linking up with Andrea because if goals aren't a favourite, I don't know what is....

Tuesday, January 12, 2021

Books Lately- January 2021

With Ontario's pandemic lockdown, I do a lot of reading for stress relief and in my spare time... Also, I'm using Overdrive and Libby more so my library has expanded even more! Here are a few that I've read in the past month, especially postseason.

Love After Love- Ingrid Persaud

After Betty Ramdin’s husband dies, she invites a colleague, Mr. Chetan, to move in with her and her son, Solo. Over time, the three become a family, loving each other deeply and depending upon one another. Then, one fateful night, Solo overhears Betty confiding in Mr. Chetan and learns a secret that plunges him into torment.

Solo flees Trinidad for New York to carve out a lonely existence as an undocumented immigrant, and Mr. Chetan remains the singular thread holding mother and son together. But soon, Mr. Chetan’s own burdensome secret is revealed, with heartbreaking consequences. Love After Love interrogates love and family in all its myriad meanings and forms, asking how we might exchange an illusory love for one that is truly fulfilling.

In vibrant, addictive Trinidadian prose, Love After Love questions who and how we love, the obligations of family, and the consequences of choices made in desperation.

I was excited to read this one by a Trinidadian author and it did not disappoint. It really showed a different type of family. It was gritty, real, poignant and haunting. The only complaint I would have is the Trinidadian dialect. While funny to me, as it was very, very Trini; I don't know if the average non-Trinidadian could really follow the story with the dialect being so heavy.

Rating: 4 out of 5 stars.

Pride Prejudice and Other Flavours- Sonali Dev

it is a truth universally acknowledged that only in an overachieving Indian American family can a genius daughter be considered a black sheep. Up-and-coming chef DJ Caine has known people like Trisha before, people who judge him by his rough beginnings and place pedigree above character. He needs the lucrative job the Rajes offer, but he values his pride too much to indulge Trisha’s arrogance. And then he discovers that she’s the only surgeon who can save his sister’s life.

This book had some good bits. I enjoyed and understood the family dynamics after the many Bollywood movies of my childhood and the food references had my mouth watering. It was a bit long and cliche for me. Romance comedy fans will appreciate it though.

Rating 2.5 out of 5 stars.

Open Book- Jessica Simpson

Jessica reveals for the first time her inner monologue and most intimate struggles. Guided by the journals she's kept since age fifteen, and brimming with her unique humor and down-to-earth humanity, Open Book is as inspiring as it is entertaining.

I was enthralled by Jessica Simpson and all she has done with her life in both the music and fashion world. This book humanized her even more to me. I really enjoyed her candour about her relationships, addictions and mistakes and her raw self-awareness.

Rating: 4 out of 5 stars

Girls of Summer- Nancy Thayer

One life-changing summer on Nantucket brings about exhilarating revelations for a single mother and her two grown children.

Nancy Thayer is like a phone call to your parents... you know what you're getting, you feel good about the world after and you know all will be well. This book was pretty cliche with some heartwarming, feel-good moments. Character development could have been better, the plot was a little rushed but all's well that ends well.

Rating: 3 out of 5 starts.

In a Holidaze- Christina Lauren

One Christmas wish, two brothers, and a lifetime of hope are on the line for hapless Maelyn Jones in In a Holidaze.

I keep meaning to break up with Christina Lauren and I keep prolonging it. This over the top book had such a weird Groundhog Day plot and wasn't very developed. The Christmas feel was good and hence one of the only reasons, I didn't hate it.

Rating: 3 out of 5

Troubles in Paradise- Elin Hilderbrand

After uprooting her life in the States, Irene Steele has just settled in at the villa on St. John where her husband Russ had been living a double life. But a visit from the FBI shakes her foundations, and Irene once again learns just how little she knew about the man she loved.

My favourite author but not my favourite series of hers. I read the first two and felt I had to finish the last in the series. It felt a bit rushed and the character development isn't as great as it is in her summer books. It was just okay for me.

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.

What have you been reading lately?

Linking up with Steph for Show Us Your Books.

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Monday, January 11, 2021

Small comforts

Happy Monday, lovelies. We are in lockdown in Ontario for a couple more weeks but who knows what the next couple of months will bring with our climbing numbers? So today's Not Just a Mom link up is perfectly timed as the small comforts are what it's all about these days. I'm not a host this year but please link up with Sarah, Adrienne, Dara, Jen, Joanne, and Lauren for some fun. I will be as much as I can!

Here's a random list of some small comforts/cozy things in our lives these days:

1- A very hot cup of coffee in the am. I'm transitioning to a cup of coffee in the am instead of tea. I got D a single serve coffee maker for Christmas and I've been using it religiously also. The quality of my coffee experience is so much better. Now if only I could do black like he's started.

2- Throw blankets--- the softer and fluffier the better. We have baskets of them in our two sitting areas and in some bedrooms too. My kids use them instead of blankets to sleep sometimes.

3- Homemade baked goods-- but it's Jan-YOU-ary so healthy ones. We are going to start experimenting with some gluten free treats soon. If you have any good recipes, please send them my way!

4- Snowy mornings where no one has to drive anywhere! Winter driving is not my fave even with good tires.

5- I've been making chai a couple times a week with this blend. It tastes like the real thing that my Indian friend makes.

6- Candles-- I mostly use soy wicks these days but there is something about the flicker of a candle on a winter day that really is cosy. I use warmer scents come winter like vanilla and marshmallow.

7- A good glass of red wine maybe with some artisan cheese or popcorn!

8- Special family meals like Mexican or Hawaiian night, Sunday brunches or even a nice pizza night!

9- A really good book. I discovered Overdrive and the Libby app through my local library so even more great, free books at my finger tips.

10- Binge worthy shows or comedy specials.

11- A Facetime coffee or Happy Hour drink with your bestie.

12- Joggers--- it will be a sad day when I have to wear real pants again.

13- Delicious weekly soups (I load them with veggie goodness) that I make for dinner one night and have as lunches during the week.

14- Slippers-- I got these for Christmas and they are like a warm hug in the am!

15-Snowy walks--- this has been a new thing since getting Toby but it's changed winter so much for us. Getting that fresh air is a game changer.