These last couple days have been awful ones. My brother in law, Sunil, D's second brother, passed away suddenly. He was a very devoted and loyal son, father, brother, brother in law, nephew, cousin and uncle to so many people and we are all shocked and grief stricken.
Kind, loving, thoughtful, funny ... Sunil meant a lot of things to many different people. I only knew him as a family member but what I will always remember is his kindness and devotion to my family. Very quiet himself, he would buy the noisiest, shiniest toys for my kids. He had the sweetest tooth known to man and he loved buying treats for my kids but also tried to be respectful of my wishes for a healthy diet, so he gave them juice :-). He had an especially special bond with Cassia and would read her story after story after story at bedtime. Towards the end as well, Anjali became his little buddy and they would bring each other so much joy.
With his one hand, he would shovel snow so Darin wouldn't have to do it. This November, when I went to Trinidad to see my new nephew, he stayed with my family for the entire 4 days, helping to take care of the kids, cook, clean and do laundry so that it was so easy for me when I came back. When it was really cold out, he would come here to help me watch Anjali so that I could go run a few errands quickly. I've never taken my car in for service as between him and Darin, they would take care of that. The last time I saw him, he drove in a snow storm to bring us some Trinidadian curry that his friend made. And these are just a few out of dozens of other altruistic deeds he did for us.
Until he died though, I never knew the extent of all the sweet things he did for so many other people and all of his generous actions. At a memorial service his friends had for him, so many people spoke about how helpful and kind he was. All of this when he was in so much pain for all of his adult life since he got into an accident when he was seventeen. This paralyzed his left arm and resulting in a lifetime of nerve pain. Our only consolation is that now he is finally free from that pain.
I can't imagine what my mother in law and his children are going through. So as we head off to Trinidad next week for the funeral and final hindu rites, I will not be blogging but I ask that you keep us in your prayers.
Rest in Peace, Sunil. So many of us will miss you dearly.